Here is an email that I recently sent out to the parents at our church.  These were just a few thoughts on my mind about “setting the example” when it comes to parenting.

It’s always a little awkward sending out emails like this because my daughter is only 2-years old.  Let the good times roll!  However, these principles are the kind that anyone could and should follow.  Read them and let me know what you think. 

1. Be biblical – when you give decisions base them on Scriptural principles.  Don’t hesitate to share them with your children either.  It will help them to know that you are thinking through things biblically.  If you have questions about an issue don’t be afraid to ask someone for help

2. Be the example – just as Christ was the example for us you should be the example(s) for your family. 

3. Be the parent – sometimes that means you have to make tough calls and decisions.  That means that you may have to sacrifice being their “friend” at times.  You may have to be the “bad guy.”  That’s okay.  We aren’t meant to necessarily be their best friend but we are given the authority by God to be their parent and to raise them up to love Him.

4. Be the one to set, support, and enforce boundaries – Sometimes, as parents, we set them, but don’t follow up on them.  We need to be vigilant.  Sometimes it’s just easier avoiding the fight.  We need to be vigilant.  Sometimes other parents aren’t supporting the same boundaries.  We need to be vigilant.

5. One extra for the road – the youth still need practical guidance on things like dress, finances, time management, and relationships.  Please offer them guidance there as well. 

Should any be added?  Taken away?

Do you have any stories of your own that could go with these?

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