Every couple of years I give a series of messages about dating and relationships in our youth group. It always creates quite a stir. It raises a lot of questions and challenges. That’s not a bad thing if it causes us to reconsider our practices.

In light of that, I thought I would put some of the thoughts and questions here. Let me know you find this useful. Let me know if you disagree too.

1. What is the purpose of dating? For the majority of JH/SH students the issue is not finding a suitable marriage partner. Many will tell you they are not even ready to consider getting married.

2. Dating and relationships tend to be self-centered to start with. The focus is on looking for that “right one” for me. Characteristics of the right one include physical, emotional, or spiritual qualities.

3. We aren’t necessarily looking at the other person the way we should because we are often looking for what enjoyment the other person can provide for us.

4. When we are looking for the “right” person we can lose sight of becoming the right person.

5. We also lose sight of the right person. God should be the center of our focus and at this stage our dating relationships do not promote that.

6. Is it possible to survive in this culture without dating?

7. When should we start dating?

8. Modern dating relationships do not promote a biblical view of purity. That doesn’t mean that they promote impurity but dating relationships seem to make purity more difficult. Given the vast amount of verses on purity should we reconsider our practices?

9. Our perceived/felt need for someone is fed by others as well as the media. We lose sight of finding our satisfaction in Christ alone.

10. Dating creates a lot of drama for the wrong reasons!

11. Is dating mentioned in the Bible?

12. What kinds of relationships are mentioned in the Bible?

13. If not dating then what?

14. We are created for community and relationship with each other. Dating relationships distort what that is supposed to look like.

Here you go. What do you think?